(outlink) What It Feels Like For a Girl

Overworked & Underf*cked™: What It Feels Like For a Girl

Detailed description, seems very similar to what happens from the other side...

(outlink) Dream Moods: Dream Information and Resource

If you're interested in dream interpretation and historical significance of dreams, the Dream Moods: Dream Information and Resource is a place to start.

(outlink) Anal? You want anal? Well, have you heard of........

.... the assfuck conspiracy?

That's very good and detailed description, and it matches my experience of what works.

(outlink) Experiencing Hypnosis: Therapeutic Approaches to Altered States

There's a free online copy of Experiencing Hypnosis: Therapeutic Approaches to Altered States by Milton H. Erickson and Ernest L. Rossi available.

A distraction

Damn cool illusion

(outlink) Old habits don't die. They hibernate.

Habitual activity--smoking, eating fatty foods, gambling--changes neural activity patterns in a specific region of the brain when habits are formed. These neural patterns created by habit can be changed or altered. But when a stimulus from the old days returns, the dormant pattern can reassert itself, according to a new study from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, putting an individual in a neural state akin to being on autopilot.

More on CNET.com

The original article is from nature.com, and deals with habit learning in rats (in the basal ganglia). This also mesh well with previous Alzheimer research, BTW.

Ormond McGill has passed away

Ormond McGill, The Dean of American Hypnotists, passed away this morning. He's been active in the field since 1927, was the first TV hypnotist, has a receipe named after him, and has written numerous books .

(Information of his passing by way of Gerald Kein)

UPDATE: More information on Brian's blog (again).

(outlink) Hypnotic Advancement - Language patterns + other detailed basics

I just browsed over the hypnoticadvancements Yahoo! group, and found that it's going to be closed (due to administrative problems - the administrator lost his password.) If you're a member, this is a good time to browse the archives - there's a wealth of material, including a book on body language, a book on the Enneagram (which I'm fairly sceptical of), and ton of posts on language patterns, induction techniques, etc. The group was moderated by Dr Frank Valente, and the large series of articles he posted is available here.

(outlink) Thomas Drewing on "Dumping dope"

In the
HypnosisTechniqueExchange, Thomas Drewing has posted another of his excellent nested stories, this time for dumping a marijuana habit. (Membership in the HTE required to read; free.)

(outlink) Relaxing under pressure - performance hypnosis

National Soccer Coaches Association of America has an article on "Performance hypnosis" online, with some details of how Keith Wilson teach soccer professionals better performance. This should apply to any high-stress situation where "going into zone" is relevant. The article is here.

(outlink) HypnoGenesis - the hypnosis magazine

I just came across the HypnoGenesis hypnosis magazine, with about 200 articles online (all free). Looks like I'll be busy for a while - the sampling I did looked relevant and interesting.

The same site contains A Modern Hypnosis Dictionary by Tom Connelly, which could be useful, though some definitions are too narrow. Specifically, Ithe fractionation entry only contains the reference to the use of going in and out of trance as a deepener, and I regularly see fractionation used as a term for other forms of emotion strengthening by repeated pullback and reentry.

What is an anchor collapse, neurologically?

In a mailing list I follow, a member claimed we "do not know what collapsing anchors is, neurologically or in the energy model."

"Collapsing anchors" is the NLP term for mixing two different conditioned responses

Neurologically, I think we (as in science) really know
what this means. An anchor is a pattern recognizer triggering an effect. In its simplest form, it is a single neuron in a neural network. In practice, there will be a bunch of related neurons triggering on similar patterns, and a feedback loop between them.

The pattern recognizers are connected 'forward' (to
experience) and 'backwards' (to create
hormone/neurotransmitter/etc release, and affect various
filters). 'Experience' include a feedback loop, since
we experience the neurotransmitters and hormones.

In neural networks, neurons that fire together wire together (actually, that's a trifle simplified, there's sometimes time delays and repetition required. Three simultaneous triggers over a ten minute period seems to do the trick, at a cellular level.)

When you 'collapse anchor', you fire two different set
of neurons at the same time, to make them grow
together . You use an association to get at each of
them, and tie the 'front' of one to the 'back' of the
other.

This works if the "back" tie of one anchor is stronger than the other (ie, there are more or stronger neurological pathways.)

I'll do more details if somebody is interested.

(book) The Science of Sex: Enhancing Sexual Pleasure, Performance, Attraction, and Desire

I've long looked for a decent book on the scientific research that's been done around sex, with the details. I'm fairly certain this is it: The Science of Sex: Enhancing Sexual Pleasure, Performance, Attraction, and Desire

If anybody want a more in-depth review of that book and higher quality posts on this blog, my e-mail address is nitainev@yahoo.com ;)

(outlink) Using cold reads to build rapport

Over on FastSeduction.com, Renegade of Pickup101.com (Sensei, Wilder) posted in detail on Using cold reading to build rapport. Worth reading, especially for the 11 standard cold reads listed at the bottom.

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Brian had a comment I think deserve front-page pullup:

The example cold read shots he gives are very blanket and don't have the power of authentic cold reading. I strongly reccommend the "Simply Cold" system by Kenton Kneppers as it is very simple, straightforward, easy to learn, and very powerful. It is a genuine cold reading system rather than a series of blanket statements that apply to anyone and everyone. I have taught it to many of my students who report they have found it to be very effective. While the sort of gambits he lists might work with some folks, others will recognize them to be general statements that could apply to anyone. A true cold reading system goes beyond that and begins getting real information and feeding it back to a person. True cold reading can be wonderful for therapy as well as entertainment. - Brian

(outlink) Mise �nu . 2005 . Reynald Drouhin

Probably not safe for work: Switchable pictures of women in a frontal pose, with and without clothes.

Mise a nu by Reynald Drouhin (2005)

An interesting artwork.

(outlink) theApproach, The Natural Game Journals, SPG's diary

There's come a new group in the pickup space, probably FS.com related, given where I picked up the link: theApproach - The Science of Social Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman

I suspect this is Woodhaven and Dimitri, though I'm not sure.

Other new seduction community links are Spirit Fingers' "The Natural Game Journals", which looks like they do good coverage of natural game, and SPG's "The SPG Diaries", which are decent, though somewhat varying in attitude.

Ref earlier article: I am good!

This thing over here claims the following:


So there!

Dealing with lost love

I'm giving some simple advice online to a woman that's gone through a bad affair and has been left with the kind of pain that often causes.

As this is something that happens fairly commonly, I'm sharing that advice here (with her permission):

Let me start with the last point first: Having emotional responses isn't 'Being an idiot'. It's being a human. Us 'science types' can all too easily disappear into the 'I should be logical and only have positive emotions' - and forget the both sides are necessary, and are stages we pass through on the way to wisdom.

Back to dealing: I'm going to throw in several sides to this, all targetted at helping you get over him.

First, a different way to look at this: It's impossible to want a particular person, as the only way we experience a person is through our senses. We can only know our own experiences - the person is an abstraction, really. In terms of this, what you want is a role in your life, or probably several roles. You want the experiences that those roles make you have. And you've not yet disconnected those roles from him, so it feels like you want him rather than the roles. So whenever you feel a need, remember that it is those roles that are speaking to you - sometimes, you'll feel it as if it is a particular person, and really it is those roles.

One way to do wholesale disconnect from love roles is to add in disgust. Think through the disgusting sides of the person - maybe there's simple side of looks you remember, a disfigurement or some particularly ugly set of toes, or just a horrible set of clothes - maybe it's more of a whiny tang to his voice at some times, or a particularly stupid phrasing or missing insight making you think 'What IS it with him?', or maybe it's a smell - dirty feet some day, or bad breath at some point, or maybe it's something else alltogether. I don't know which of these will resonate with your memory, or if there's another memory alltogether you'll find, yet I'm sure that there are some things that's annoying and disgusting and you'll remember them now or in a short while.

Another way to disconnect roles is to do it singularly - finding somebody else to share each aspect with, and noticing how that role gets filled, this need of yours is fullfilled.


Next part: You're changing your behaviour to avoid triggering pain - and I believe that is actually *driving* the pain, and making it stronger. You're adding in fear of the pain to the pain itself, and you're sort of locking down the pain by acceeding to its demands. The standard way of psychology to deal with getting rid of this sort of triggered behaviour is called 'Progressive desensitisation'. That consists of going lightly into the situation, and staying there until the reaction has gone down, then going a little farther into it, then staying until the reaction has gone down, etc. In your case, I don't know exactly how your progression of the trigger goes - if you've got some way of doing 'partial triggering', we may want to look into that - but I know one thing: I can give you a way to stop the pain loop, which will work fairly well immediately and better over time (assuming no serious diet deficiencies - if this turn out to not be OK, we'll deal with it).

The technique is very simple: Calling up a memory or an imagined setting where you're really all OK, happy and content. To get that memory called up properly, you need to call it up in all your senses. First, imagine how the scene looks. Next, imagine what sounds you are hearing. Then imagine how your body feels, where your clothes touch you, how you sit, what the temperature is, how it smells. Then go back to the visual image, adding in movement, perhaps focusing on a different aprt - and remember to see the scene from *your* position, being in the scene. It should be bright and clear, with full vibrant colors, large and totally immersive. Continue with the other senses, filling in more aspects. Then just remember the sense you have there, and go on with life.

As you do this a few times, it will become easier and easier. If you need to strengthen the emotion, go out to 'normal reality' again and then back to the scene. And if you find you need to have the state from the scene available at other times (without going into the scene), you can touch yourself in a particular way - for instance, pressing the thumb and ring finger on your left hand together - when in the scene, and then do that again when you need to associate with it at other times.

[She mentioned that she was calling him at times.] Oh, and when it comes to calling: Find somebody else to call instead. Just choose somebody - your mother, a girlfriend, a male friend - it doesn't really matter who, just have somebody else positive to call.

Feel free to post comments with questions, as usual.

(outlink) Link collection on communication

The outline to the textbook Preliminaries To Human Communication is a good read in itself - and better yet, at the bottom is one of the best link collections I've seen. 150 highly relevant links.

(outlink) A Cialdini Interview on influence

I just got a link to a Robert Cialdinia Interview on influence. CLARCCS cues one by one with examples in the context of sales. Go read it.