On what I am

I've just had one of my friends read this blog and conclude that I'm an asshole, that I view women as things. I feel that's a long distance from who I am and how I see the world. I care about everybody I meet, and I get sad by having somebody interpret me that way.

So - how am I from my point of view?

I'm grounded in science. At one level, my view of the world is that people are similar, work according to rules, a series of chemical reactions that are similar. That worldview is simple, systematic, and the view I mostly run this blog from. The blog is targetted to the seduction.player/therapist community - and for that community, I believe that view is the most effective. An interaction between a man and a woman is a seduction, for an interation to result in a relationship, each person needs to do the "right" thing. Each person needs to follow (consciously or unconsciously) the techniques for influence, for amping sexual attraction, for feeling closer to another person and making that person feel closer to him or her self.

But - viewing that perspective as the whole of me? I view each person I interact with as an individual. I view each person as somebody I want to have a good time, as somebody I want to improve the life of, as somebody I hope I can leave something of value with. And, ultimately, I hope to find somebody I can share my life with, and that in sharing that life I can make that person have a better life.

I once spent about three years having sex at text message away, never letting anybody close, just being a player - and yet, I did whatever I could to make each of the people I "played" know where they had me, know what I could give them, and to the best of my ability I helped them find somebody else that could fill more of their needs.

Yes, I walk up to people and talk to them. I try to make them have a good time, but I'll admit I've also tested out how rude I can be - and still have them have a good time. I've yet to have them dislike it when I'm rude - only when I try to be polite and nice. And the only cases I've ended up in bed with somebody after this has been when somebody has pulled *me* to bed - almost literally.

I've got a good relationship with everybody I've done anything with since I started doing this systematically. To the best of my knowledge, I've not hurt anybody, and I've cared for everybody involved. I've given my love when I could - when the person I've been with has been interested in anything more, when it could work with more between us.

I don't know what more I can do. Sure, I've learned the skills, and I'm still learning them - but - isn't the issue what I do with my skills? If I use them to the best of all I meet - to the best of my ability - can't I still be a good person, even with skills?